Jewels of the heart

Have you ever had the feeling that you are drifting further away from the very person that cares for you the most. I have always felt that my relationship with my dad has not been the most expressive. But the feelings of care and concern are so genuine it need not be expressed with words. A father figure is such a crucial element in shaping a child's life. The presence of both parents in a child's developmental life is so important. A father figure is always seen as the one with the responsibility of disciplining a child. Years of disciplinarian actions shape somewhat of a fear in the child during their growing years. This fear creates a distance between the child and their dad and overtime it could slowly cause a drift in the relationship. It becomes akward to discuss emotions or personal life issues. The most basic of conversations are the only ones that remain on the table. It could seem that a whole deal of space has ballooned out of proportion and seem hard to patch up. As you get older and you see the effect of this very distance that separates you, it breaks you from within. The very person that cares the most for you seems to be pulling away further and that hurts. It is hard to feel at ease with your parents cause a certain level of line is always drawn and is hard to break down walls. Open communication is crucial for breaking down walls. Just a mere act of morning greetings or updating about each others life events on a daily basis helps with the breaking down of the walls. It is essential to be persistent. Parents as they get older, tend to hide their pain from their kids in an attempt to not cause any burden to them and it is the responsibility of the kids to realize any changes or difference in the behaviour of their parents and fish out the problems they might try to hide. It takes effort to maintain a proper relationship with parents cause they are the very first relationship you have experienced in your life and something you should never forget and learn to cherish.